So, my tips on fighting social anxiety are as follows:
- Kill your arrogance. All those who suffer from sociophobia have one common trait: they are dependent on other people’s appraisal. Each and every sociophobe wants to receive positive evaluations of others, or rather, he is afraid of receiving negative ones. Moreover, he wants to be positively evaluated not only by his relatives, friends, boss, etc – but also by people whose opinion, in theory, shouldn’t overly concern him (salesclerks, passers-by and so on). What does it mean? It means that he is afraid of being deemed worse than others; hence, he cannot recognize that somebody can be better than him. The fact is that, in his subconscious mind, he believes that HE IS THE BEST. It other words, he is very arrogant (though he may not be aware of it). So, fight your arrogance!
- Always tell the truth. If you start telling the truth, you will stop worrying about a lot of things. You will no more think in fear: “Will they learn this thing about me?” Telling the truth, you simplify your life to the greatest possible extent. Don’t be afraid of admitting that you get intimidated by some situations, that you are not sure of something or don’t know something. It is quite normal, and people won’t start rejecting you after that – rather on the contrary. The only caveat to this is: don’t give away all your secrets right away. Start with minor things and then, gradually, pass on to more important ones;
- Take responsibility for your own life. Remember this foremost rule: everything that happens in your life is a result of your own actions. For many people, it will be hard to admit it. They think that if they are not liked, are humiliated, insulted, etc – then others are bad, and they are good. In reality, just the opposite is true. It is they who are guilty. If they didn’t give a handle for it, if they didn’t allow it, then everything would be different. Here, I would also like to touch upon problems. Treat problems not as something negative, but as signals. Signals that you should change something about yourself;
- Be unbiased. Treat people and life as a whole unbiasedly and realistically. Take off your rose-colored glasses. No one owes you anything. Remember also that you shouldn’t try to fix people;
- Help others. A sociophobe usually has low self-esteem (while paradoxically at the same time being arrogant). Helping other people will remedy the situation.
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