Before I start describing the techniques, I’d like to point out that a feeling (in this case, love) is not our destiny, nor is it a given. It is nothing but desires and circumstances, and you are quite able to change them if you want to do it and know how to do it. Now, to the techniques.
The techniques I’m going to introduce to you are based on writing. Psychologists believe that writing is an excellent way to discharge an “emotional charge” (in other words, to get rid of a feeling) – if done properly. I will describe two writing techniques, and you should use both of them, for higher efficiency. You will need a writing-book, a pen, a little time, and resolution.
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Technique 1
1. First, describe your feelings. Vividly and in great detail. Be absolutely honest and describe even your most exotic desires related to the person you want to fall out of love with;
2. Now, answer WHY you feel this. Write A LOT – no less than 3 pages. Hold a dialog with yourself;
3. Take a break. It can last from one hour to one day;
4. Then answer WHO you actually need. Describe this person in detail;
5. Now answer whether the object of your love conforms to these criteria. Write down everything that compromises him/her – bad habits, egoism, hard-heartedness, physical imperfections, etc;
6. Read the list of the negative traits (you can add new ones if they come to mind) and think whether you really need such a person;
7. Understand that you (as well as anybody else) cannot change this person for the better. Rather, he/she will only become WORSE. Imagine what the worst-case scenario will be like and describe it in writing. Write down what you will have to sacrifice. The worst of it is that you, in all likelihood, will describe your REAL future.
A week of practicing this technique will open your eyes to all the stupidity of your idealizations. A lot of people will be able to accomplish the task of falling out of love using only the above technique, but if your idealizations are too strong, add to it the following one:
Technique 2
You put into the object of your love your energy, time, feelings, and thoughts, and now, they are, in the final analysis, the only thing you hold on to. Take back your wasted energy!
1. Recognize the fact of idealizations. Write how your fantasy distorts your perception of reality. Describe your fantasies in a disparaging and ironic manner;
2. Throw out all things that remind you of the person you want to fall out of love with. Write down how much effort and time you waste. Then write how you can and should use this energy;
3. Invent a farewell ceremony for your delusion and conduct it.
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