The guidelines I’d like to give you are below:
- Perform everyday rituals. In hard times, it is important to repeat habitual activities characteristic of normal life: to rise in the morning, to brush the teeth, to eat, to go to work, to go shopping, to talk on the phone. Even if it seems to you inappropriate or unnecessary, the sooner you get your life forcedly back on track, the sooner it will come to normal. Pay particular attention to eating: even if you have no appetite, push yourself to eat. If you, on the contrary, eat to take your mind off grief, stint yourself in food so that your organism is not harmed by overeating;
- Don’t turn to bad habits. Try not to deepen the existing bad habits and don’t develop new ones. Even if it seems to you that a cigarette or a glass of a strong drink will help you, it is not the case. Deadening your feelings, you just bury them somewhere deep inside you, but they don’t disappear and will surely reemerge. Evaluate impartially what one or another bad habit gives you in the current situation. Do you really feel better after every pack of cigarettes you smoke or every bottle you drink? Of course, you don’t and you won’t, so stop ruining your health; instead, look at life from a new angle and break your vicious habits;
- Socialize with people. Don’t stop socializing with relatives and friends – it is their support that will help you outwear sorrow. Even if it seems to you that words of sympathy won’t heal your soul wounds, kind words and sincere hugs are able to help even when you are on the verge of despair or, on the contrary, if you buried your pain so deep in your soul that you stopped feeling anything. Don’t be afraid to talk about unrelated matters, to joke, to laugh – you shouldn’t sit with a blank expression on your face for the rest of your life. You shouldn’t feel guilty about the fact that you are alive or that something amused you. The more time you spend socializing with people, the sooner you will be able to express your pain and thereby to let go of it;
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- Do something. On no account should you sit back and do nothing; don’t spend the whole day in bed, either. Do something! Tidying up, washing, ironing, cooking, etc – anything will do. It will distract you from your sorrow. If you have a hobby, that’s great, because a hobby will in this case be a kind of psychotherapy for you;
- Write down what you feel. Write what you think, what you are afraid of, what you wanted but had no time to do. When you pour it all out on paper, you will feel better. Then you can reread what you wrote, analyze your thoughts, fully realize what had happened, and stop blaming for it yourself or anybody else.
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